Do you tell your husband you gamble?

[EluguHcman]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.... That conscience that inspired you the thought is out of your guiltiness conscienceness that you are either doing the wrong thing or you are cheating on your husband.
You know your husband more than everyone else here, so if you know he can tolerate such a thing from you or if you know he would abuse you or you know the situation would cause you a marriage catastrophe in your married then it is best know to you.
So, let your research and conscience determine for you if you have to tell him or not. Otherwise, of he wouldn't tolerate it with you then I must say you should quit gambling and yet keep your past gambling experiences away from him in other to secure your marriage because of a gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Please i don't know if this violets the rules, and if yes then i don't mind locking this topic immediately.
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[LDL]

Me a male ...
I usually share what I do with my wife because she helps me in many bad situations and if I break down she is close to comfort me in times of trouble. So my wife has known since long that I am involved in gambling. Many times if I lose a gambling bet for some reason, my wife consoles me and helps me cope with the situation.

[Igebotz]

Me a male ...
I usually share what I do with my wife because she helps me in many bad situations and if I break down she is close to comfort me in times of trouble. So my wife has known since long that I am involved in gambling. Many times if I lose a gambling bet for some reason, my wife consoles me and helps me cope with the situation.

This is exactly how a home should be built. There shouldn't be private living in a home. A husband should know everything that his wife does and vice versa. This will form a basis for trust and the confidence to vouch for a wife or husband when the need arises.

It will amount to a misunderstanding and mistrust for the spouse if an outsider tells us what our wife or husband is doing. This has broken so many homes and so, it shouldn't be taken for granted. Thus, if you are into gambling tell your partner. If he or she isn't comfortable with it, pause to save your marriage.

[Litzki1990]

If a gambler is a wife or a husband, and if one of the two is a gambler, the gambler may want to share this with his wife or husband. A wife lives in the same house with her husband, so if she keeps this matter a secret, there may be a bad relationship between them. If the husband does not want his wife to gamble, the wife may have to give up gambling, but if the wife gambles after discussing it openly with the husband, then I think that the relationship between the two will be maintained. Husbands are usually a bit different in this regard, they try to gamble in secret if the rest of the family does not like gambling. While husbands have the opportunity to gamble secretly, wives do not have the opportunity to gamble secretly from their husbands.

[retreat]

My answer remains the same, it is your choice whether to tell your husband or not. If you feel that your husband is a patient person and can tolerate what you do, you should tell him about your gambling, because after all he is your husband. However, if you feel that he gets emotional easily and tends not to tolerate what you do, you should not tell him about your gambling, because you also gamble responsibly so it won't be too obvious on your relationship.

[bounceback]

Husband? its first time I know OP is the women and amazing with gambling platform usually dominance by men but here have super wonder women in gambling.
Actually have transparent between wife and husband about gambling activities, since not break the household financial I don't think problem for wife or husband active in gambling platform.
Firstly need transparent not only for wife but also husband have make the same thing tell to his wife about his gambling activities, make limitation deposit fund in gambling platform and never use money allocated for household needed if you want protect you marriage keep existing forever.

[yahoo62278]

I have already made this post in the other forum so I just have to quote it down here to see separate overview from people over the two forum..

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Please i don't know if this violets the rules, and if yes then i don't mind locking this topic immediately.

If you have to hide your activities, then you are in the wrong period. Hiding is just as bad as cheating IMO. I would confess and let them know that you are sorry for your actions and will not do it any  longer. They may or may not forgive you, but it is the right thing to do.

[aiviaa485]

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

My basic thinking falls on "Honesty" because with honesty we can respect yourself, your husband and even other people.
If you gamble but are not honest with your husband, it is the same as lying to yourself and it hurts worse than being pricked by a thorn from a rose.
If you are honest that you gamble, maybe your husband will think twice, whether to forbid it at all or not even forbid or support you in gambling, but with the following conditions:
-Do not spend money on gambling.
-The maximum daily gambling limit is 100 USD.
-Don't gamble in front of your family, especially small children.
-Or maybe your husband also gambles but with the limit of not excessively using funds.

Try to be "Honest" with your husband first because I'm sure you can do that easily and your husband will definitely open his eyes to find the best solution.

[examplens]

Yes I did that already and he was neutral over our discussion although his respond was so funny in a way that I couldn't even know he would take it so common where he said "Haa nawao na so this hustling don carry you go reach" so as woman i really understand my limits and where I shouldn't go above my bands and limits or even without gambling to double my income.

I missed a bit to follow the development of this situation. I'm glad that you took courage and told the truth, which as you can see, was not so scary.

And please, I don't know what country you live in, but you don't need to think that as a woman you have special limits. The Internet is a free space and the only limitations are the ones we have in our heads. If you hadn't said yourself that you were a woman, the rest of us would never have been able to know, therefore gender does not affect equality

[Zed0X]

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Yes I did that already and he was neutral over our discussion although his respond was so funny in a way that I couldn't even know he would take it so common where he said "Haa nawao na so this hustling don carry you go reach" so as woman i really understand my limits and where I shouldn't go above my bands and limits or even without gambling to double my income.

As I understand it, your husband welcomes that you're hustling for a side income but he doesn't want you to go overboard with your gambling. Please translate what he said in English because we don't want to be lost in translation.

[0t3p0t]

I have already made this post in the other forum so I just have to quote it down here to see separate overview from people over the two forum..

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Please i don't know if this violets the rules, and if yes then i don't mind locking this topic immediately.

Tell him about everything don't tell lies or even keep secrets with your husband. You two are the only people who can solve the family's problems so telling him the truth won't make any difference. Keeping the trust between you and your husband will make the foundation of your family become even more stronger.

Set your gambling limits prioritize the family's needs than gambling. But if money isn't your problem and gambling is just a pastime to you I think it's all good. I know how hard it is to be a wife most especially if you have children as I can see it theough my neighbors it's not that easy thing. So I think gambling on a free time is reasonable as long as you are responsible.

[Agbe]

I used to work as a system admin, where one of the clients was a live (hot) cam studio, where I met a bunch of girls in their underwear every day. Of course, my wife knew that then. Later it turned out that it was good that I didn't hide it.

What?
How where you able to overcome that seeing girls with their underwear, don't you get triggered and how was your wife able to cope with you?
I know this is hard to explain but sometimes they have no option than to accept provided that you are earning ends meet over there.

In advance countries seeing a naked woman is nothing for them. It is part of your lifestyle and it is not in Africa when we see a woman with underwear, we will salivating and all the sexual organs arose. And also going back the topic of the thread. Most women didn't tell husbands that they gamble and most time they are caught in the act. And if the husbands knew it in most cases they would be a very big quarrel between them. So to avoid problem some them keep quiet and play gamble to themselves.

[IyemRoker]

Husband? its first time I know OP is the women and amazing with gambling platform usually dominance by men but here have super wonder women in gambling.

Yeps, I also just saw on this forum that there is a woman who has been gambling for a long time.
But in a world where women are willing to gamble, I see a lot of them and it's not surprising.

But maybe I also can't give too much advice because I don't gamble and don't want to gamble.
I was in a position that was traumatized by gambling because my ex-husband used to gamble and forgot about our family.

Maybe it's also best for the OP to speak frankly to her husband because maybe one day he will be found out if the OP is gambling with his money.
Before her husband finds out, OP must do her best at the start, telling him what has happened so far that he likes to gamble.

[bisdak40]

To avoid conflict, it is better to tell your husband that you gamble because sooner or later he will know that you are into that activity and that might be the start that your family being broken as you keep secrets. I saw a lot of woman who gamble here in our place and there's no problem with that because they have the blessings of their husbands and also they gamble together.

Nothing can be kept secret forever, just remember that.

[Power420]

I have already made this post in the other forum so I just have to quote it down here to see separate overview from people over the two forum..

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Please i don't know if this violets the rules, and if yes then i don't mind locking this topic immediately.

Gambling is usually played by people for fun, I like gambling but not addicted. Gambling is usually done by the big and rich people who contribute to the big business. I usually participate in gambling four days a week and the rest of the days I retire. Gambling gives me a lot of pleasure because here only the history of fortunes can be observed where I find the essence of my fortune. In the beginning when I gambled I lost a lot of money and the risk of losing was higher when I became addicted. So now I stop being addicted now and I am now on my way to success.