The days to Txs by gross less than $2, etc. It ended a long time ago and not to mention the "famous" 1sat/vB, the fee is a percentage, placed in the range 1-3%, low priority, and HP: 4%,5% of the amount. If it doesn't work for you, there are other options, waiting is one, and/or Atls.
Saying that $10-$20 is a lot doesn't make sense if you send $1000 and it's stupid to pay a $10-$20 fee when the mempool tells you that the priority is 1sat/vB.