Relationships

[Rruchi man]

What's your dream girl like? What qualities should she have, what should she be able to do?

When I often see this kind of questions and I see people listed qualities that they hope to see in their partner I always listen deeply to see because there are two categories or qualities that people always list out which are the physical qualities and other the qualities that you cannot see. Some people focus more on physical qualities than the qualities which we cannot see that are more important. A good partner goes farther than having money or looking physically attractive, because it requires more than that to keep a marriage.

[bisdak40]

What's your dream girl like? What qualities should she have, what should she be able to do?

When I often see this kind of questions and I see people listed qualities that they hope to see in their partner I always listen deeply to see because there are two categories or qualities that people always list out which are the physical qualities and other the qualities that you cannot see. Some people focus more on physical qualities than the qualities which we cannot see that are more important. A good partner goes farther than having money or looking physically attractive, because it requires more than that to keep a marriage.

It's not about the physical appearance that matters to me all that matters is what is on the inside because all that matters to me is a partner who respects, loves, is honest, and cares for me. These qualities are the essence of a meaningful relationship.

[milewilda]

What's your dream girl like? What qualities should she have, what should she be able to do?

When I often see this kind of questions and I see people listed qualities that they hope to see in their partner I always listen deeply to see because there are two categories or qualities that people always list out which are the physical qualities and other the qualities that you cannot see. Some people focus more on physical qualities than the qualities which we cannot see that are more important. A good partner goes farther than having money or looking physically attractive, because it requires more than that to keep a marriage.

It's not about the physical appearance that matters to me all that matters is what is on the inside because all that matters to me is a partner who respects, loves, is honest, and cares for me. These qualities are the essence of a meaningful relationship.

But it would really be an overall package if you do have those qualities plus the beauty then this is something which is really that rare to see. Each men does have their own
dream girl that they do wish up that they would be able to be with for the rest of their lives on which its not really that shocking that we would really be wanting to those good looking
but ending up into those non good conditions due to those non good behavior of their partners on which ending up on having that kind of regret for the rest of their lives.
It would really be that understandable that majority of men would be coming after into the appearance and only second about those good qualities deep inside or simply its traits.
Even myself would be wanting on having those good traits on which you would be having that peace of mind.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

What's your dream girl like? What qualities should she have, what should she be able to do?

When I often see this kind of questions and I see people listed qualities that they hope to see in their partner I always listen deeply to see because there are two categories or qualities that people always list out which are the physical qualities and other the qualities that you cannot see. Some people focus more on physical qualities than the qualities which we cannot see that are more important. A good partner goes farther than having money or looking physically attractive, because it requires more than that to keep a marriage.

It's not about the physical appearance that matters to me all that matters is what is on the inside because all that matters to me is a partner who respects, loves, is honest, and cares for me. These qualities are the essence of a meaningful relationship.

I think you've omitted the very core factor that holds a relationship, which is understanding. I'm not saying the qualities you've listed are not essential, they're in fact very very crucial when it comes to sustaining a relationship, but then again, without understanding the relationship wouldn't last much longer because your partner may love you so madly but if the person doesn't understand or maybe it's you who do not understand your partner, then the love may not actually do much good to the relationship, because there'll always be misunderstanding, even with the tiniest thing that would've just required you both to just talk things through with mutual understanding, but due to lack of understanding, the matter could escalate and things could literally get out of hand and the outcome could be unfortunate, even with the presence of love in the relationship.
Same thing goes for honesty and other qualities you've stated.

[philipma1957]

Today is my 38th wedding anniversary.

We just went out to a nice German restaurant
 
Had an early dinner and will now watch a bit of tv to relax.

What makes for a good long lasting relationship?

Do not be an egotistical a-hole.

Concede most everything but and here is the big but when you know something must be done a certain way or great harm will happen you have to stand your ground>

I tend to agree with my wife 95% of the time not because I must but because it would be what I would do any way.

maybe 4% of the time I agree even if I know or think I know she is wrong and I am correct. Why is that because of the 1% that she is completly total wrong and I must emphasize that it is my way or the highway.

So far in 38 years. We had two arguments where I told her she had to agree with me she did and things worked out.

She told me 4 or 5 times in 38 years I had to agree with her. I did and she was right.


The high end game of obey me or else should be really really rare. It has been If it happens a lot 10 times a year every year most likely you will not work things out. Being part may be best.

[bitterguy28]

I think you've omitted the very core factor that holds a relationship, which is understanding. I'm not saying the qualities you've listed are not essential, they're in fact very very crucial when it comes to sustaining a relationship, but then again, without understanding the relationship wouldn't last much longer because your partner may love you so madly but if the person doesn't understand or maybe it's you who do not understand your partner, then the love may not actually do much good to the relationship,

what really holds a relationship together is not love but understanding of each other and having respect for one another

love can not always keep you afloat there will be some cases where you both need to make sacrifices and if you understand why you need that then your relationship will grow stronger and healthier

there are too many cases where relationships end because of simple misunderstandings that could have been fixed if they both just talked to each other and became honest

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

In relationship, we have to be well focused and taker time to observe well, because not everything that glitters are gold, some people will give their own desirable characters they want from their partner whom they will get engaged with while some of these qualities may all not be found on a single person, its not about beauty, but how serious and ready one is for starting a trustworthy relationship.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

love can not always keep you afloat there will be some cases where you both need to make sacrifices and if you understand why you need that then your relationship will grow stronger and healthier

I couldn't agree more with you.
The ability of individuals to make compromises and sacrifices in a relationship is another awesome quality that is required of the both parties if the relationship is to last for a longer period. Yes it has to be the both because if it's left for one person a lone to be making the sacrifices and compromises, there'll surely be an imbalance in the relationship because at one point, the one making the sacrifices would eventually get tired of always being selfless and putting the needs and interest of the next person first before their own, this is because relationship is a two ways thing, it's all about giving and receiving, it's all about receiving and reciprocating what you've been given, and if you're unable to reciprocate, there'll surely be a void that'll be unfilled in the relationship, and this void or vacuum remains there for a longer time, it'll result to a crack and then finally a breakdown which is actually the end of the relationship.

[Cryptsafe]

Today is my 38th wedding anniversary.

We just went out to a nice German restaurant
 
Had an early dinner and will now watch a bit of tv to relax.

Wow!
This is worth celebrating. I could tell you have had a good years with your wife and it must have been a very good and beautiful time you both have had all the years and counting. These are the types of marriage testimony worth sharing and hearing. If it were possible to have an interview with you both, it would have been an interesting one because you would say things worth hearing and emulating because i believe somehow there have been storms along the way that one would hear and learn from because there has never been a time when the sea is always smooth. Testimonies of this kind are worth sharing so that young families and marriage can learn something from your experience.

Congratulations....!

[Agbe]

What's your dream girl like? What qualities should she have, what should she be able to do?

Everyone has their own qualities when it comes to women as what you consider a beautiful girl can be considered as not beautiful but when it comes to women I think perfection should not be a yastic when making your choice because perfection is very far from us as human beings to me what I look out for is the ability of the girl to be in a relationship is see ready to settle down and what is her level of maturity and understanding in building a home with you because you can look at the physical appearance and a girl can look beautiful but when it comes to the inside they are not good enough because there are allot of girls that are not thinking of building a home but only look at what they can get out of the relationship so if I see a girl that is understandable and ready to go into  a relationship is all that I need I don't need too much qualities from a woman because I know nobody is perfect