Does it make sense to have bestfriend of an opposite sex?

[+1]

Friendship does not look at gender, when you are compatible and on the same page, usually you complement each other to help each other if a problem occurs, then there is never a problem with how our friendship will form, but it is important to remember that there are boundaries that must be applied within ourselves so as not to disappoint each other in the future, maintain feelings if our friends are of the opposite sex and maintain attitudes towards treatment

That is why friendship is possible with any person no matter their gender, as long as they understand you and appreciate your friendship as well. Thus, in friendship, we support each other and come to each other’s aid when one is facing some difficulties, and that makes a good relationship. But then again, it cannot be forgotten that boundaries need to be in place if the friends are of the totally different gender. That’s why, aggression can destroy the pearl of friendship which is the distance that doesn’t allow the unwanted expectations to come to the stage. Hence, it is necessary to keep good conduct and communication so that there should not be any issue and confusion arises.

[Chilwell]

If you are single and not into any relationship, then it is fine. However, if you are married or into any serious relationship, it is only a matter of time before your partner gets really jealous and might leave you because of that, it is also not a good position to put your partner.

Exactly, how can a married man have a female best friend and how can a married woman have a male best friend. That doesn't make any sense to me. And it going to cause conflict between them(the couples) and it may lead to separation. What's the point of marrying the person if he or she is not worthy to to be your best friend. If you are a man and you have a female bestie, they must be some positive characteristics that she poses before you consider her as your best friend, if you think she worthy to be your best friend, then the best thing is to make her your wife, no need to bring another woman into the picture as a wife, because that is going to be a great disaster. The same thing applies to women.

[Z-tight]

Exactly, how can a married man have a female best friend and how can a married woman have a male best friend. That doesn't make any sense to me.

Yeah, it does not make any sense to me, even if you were friends before you got married or got into a serious relationship, you have to limit the relationship, you may not necessarily have to cut your friend off, but you can limit the closeness. Nobody will be happy if their partner has a very close friend.

[bitterguy28]

Exactly, how can a married man have a female best friend and how can a married woman have a male best friend. That doesn't make any sense to me.

Yeah, it does not make any sense to me, even if you were friends before you got married or got into a serious relationship, you have to limit the relationship, you may not necessarily have to cut your friend off, but you can limit the closeness. Nobody will be happy if their partner has a very close friend.

you guys said it yourself that as long as there’s limit it’s fine i think it is weirder to not be able to maintain a relationship with the opposite sex without the threat of cheating friends can remain friends if you guys are clear with what your limits are with each other but it’s your lives and you can do whatever you want with it so whatever is comfortable the most to you and your partner

[libert19]

It does. It's not like one finds every opposite sex person sexually attractive, if there is no sexual attraction between the two then they can remain as bestfriend, and I don't see how it'll be different than same sex bestfriend.

It's different thing that your spouse may doubt, but it does not falsify the reality that there is nothing going on between them.

[milewilda]

It does. It's not like one finds every opposite sex person sexually attractive, if there is no sexual attraction between the two then they can remain as bestfriend, and I don't see how it'll be different than same sex bestfriend.

It's different thing that your spouse may doubt, but it does not falsify the reality that there is nothing going on between them.

Okay lets say there's no sexaul attraction in between but we do know that in the long run on which there comes a time or a situation that feeling could be molded and temptations isnt something that could easily be resist or able to avoid on which we know that it could be developed over time. We even husbands or men who do have a girlfriend or wife, who would be the heck that letting his gf/wife to go with opposite sex besfriend? Who do hell does that? If ever your gf do likes on doing so and ended up that it seems that you are the ones who had been that stopping her on her freedom then its better to release while its still early. Well, it dont really like with this kind of approach on which trying out to make those kind of meet ups with opposite sex.

[Findingnemo]

Yes it's possible, but people be friends with opposite gender for two reasons. One is they share many things in common that attaches them and definitely no sexual attraction is there between both of them. Another one is casual friendship who most likely will be ready to jump if there's an opportunity. People want to explore more and this is just a shortcut.

[Z-tight]

i think it is weirder to not be able to maintain a relationship with the opposite sex without the threat of cheating friends can remain friends if you guys are clear with what your limits are with each other but it’s your lives and you can do whatever you want with it so whatever is comfortable the most to you and your partner

It is not about what you and your friend decide or the limits you guys set, it is about how your partner feels. They might not openly complain to you about it, however, your partner may be very uncomfortable about such a relationship and in my opinion, it is unfair to put then in such a position.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

as long as you know your boundaries then i see no problems people regardless of gender should be able to build meaningful connections and strong friendships with one another and if you have a partner already then just stay loyal and you will not meet any problems along the way

True, there is no wrong in have a relationship with the opposite gender.
If you are already married, you just have to let your partner know and make them to understand there is nothing more than just a friendship, also don't make any silly move that will make your partner to start suspecting you and also let you friendship know that you are married and they should also know their boundaries as well in order to maintain stability, harmony and peace.

[joniboini]

They might not openly complain to you about it, however, your partner may be very uncomfortable about such a relationship and in my opinion, it is unfair to put then in such a position.

A healthy relationship would allow our partner to complain and be open about stuff like this. It's not like we can break their head and see what they're feeling. Depending on the culture, too, I think it's not a huge problem to discuss it on our own, even if they don't talk about it. Then again, defining the boundaries of what is acceptable will be difficult without any communication. Even outside of this topic, we should communicate properly with our partner imo.