What is your take on situations as this.

[Cryptsafe]

This is a general discussion board, so I assume it is the right place to make this post for further interaction, but if the admin or mod sees this as not the appropriate board for this, they can move it to the right board. 

A few days ago, a friend called me and was very sad. I could feel his pain, and I had to hold myself. He was crying on the other end, crying bitterly, and was sharing with me about how he was being treated by his own family, that it became obvious that outsiders took advantage of it also, and this is a family he makes sure he supports and makes sure everything is alright. He told me many things that bothered him. I could feel his pain deep down, and I couldn't hold myself. He told me lots of things, and to be frank, he is having a hard time right now, and I am touched at what he is going through, and I could only advise and support him to be of good calm and not act rashly.

I would like to hear from the community here what their advice would be in this situation.

[PX-Z]

So what advice do you want to hear from us for a problem that you never told. At least provide an info why his family threat him so bad (verbal, physical, emotional, what), what are the cause, when it started, when he start to support his family, is this his extended family (father, mother, siblings), or his own made family.

If you want general advice, then just listen to him, maybe he just needs someone there to listen to his problems.

[bisdak40]

I'm sorry that your friend is going through so much. It must be so painful to feel hurt by the people he loves and supports. You did a good thing by just being there and listening. Sometimes that means more than words. Just keep reminding him he’s not alone, and it’s okay to feel hurt. I hope things get better for him soon.

[milewilda]

So what advice do you want to hear from us for a problem that you never told. At least provide an info why his family threat him so bad (verbal, physical, emotional, what), what are the cause, when it started, when he start to support his family, is this his extended family (father, mother, siblings), or his own made family.

If you want general advice, then just listen to him, maybe he just needs someone there to listen to his problems.

Yes, there are those people who do treat out that your own presense should suffice or already that a great help. Each one of us does have that problem that we do able to face on.
Giving out some advises at least will be that a huge help but actually a certain person will be the only one will be needing up to think that he/she gonna do in regarding about into the decisions that he would be that trying out to do so. There are just that those conditions that severe problems do bring out them to the bottom or it seems like there's no solution into it but it turned out
in each problem. There's a solution into that and thats why its important on making up those realizations on how to act accordingly and made out decisions on which you do sees out that brings positivity.

[bitterguy28]

I would like to hear from the community here what their advice would be in this situation.

what situation? mate all you said was that he was suffering how can we know what kind of advice he needs if we do not know why he is suffering in the first place? your post is under the right board but i hope you at least give us some more information you just wrote a whole paragraph without any words actually meaning anything

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

A few days ago, a friend called me and was very sad. I could feel his pain, and I had to hold myself. He was crying on the other end, crying bitterly, and was sharing with me about how he was being treated by his own family, that it became obvious that outsiders took advantage of it also, and this is a family he makes sure he supports and makes sure everything is alright. He told me many things that bothered him. I could feel his pain deep down, and I couldn't hold myself. He told me lots of things, and to be frank, he is having a hard time right now, and I am touched at what he is going through, and I could only advise and support him to be of good calm and not act rashly.

Expect disappointment from any side in life, this may come from family, friends or even at your place of work, those you think you can lean on and confide trust in may disappoint you, because they are not perfect, we are all humans a d imperfection is part of us, we need to understand how to relate with people, because those that disappoints you today may surprise you tomorrow on the other side, which tells that we should go with life the way it comes for us, being dynamic with our approach to life, not giving up, not been biased or one sided, being courageous and strong, having hope and confidence for tomorrow and in ourselves, will all keep us moving ahead of our daily challenges.

[Findingnemo]

You only mentioned he is having hard time due to his family, but the actual reason might give us the clarity of what is happening. However toxic family environment is real and being in that family hinders your academics or career and ruin your peace of mind. Look for the alternatives if necessary like move out of them and starting to live alone itself can make a huge difference in regaining control over your life and mental well-being.

[JoyMarsha]

As I always tell people, if you want to be valued or respected by your family members, try and live alone, to be visiting your family members once a while when necessary because over familiarity and being available all the time brings insults. People won't regard you because you made yourself to be available to them.

Tell your friend to distance himself from his family members for the mean time, so that he can get back his respect.

[Rruchi man]

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You actually have not said anything; you have not shared the story for us to understand a reason why your friend has been treated badly by his family. He could be the cause due to his actions or attitude, but he has come to paint his family badly with his story.

You need to know the full story.

[joniboini]

Others have pointed out that you lack details for us to give meaningful advice. I'd also add that you probably need to ask your friend for consent too, if you want to post his story here, especially if the problem is sensitive. Sure, some might have no issues with it, especially when you don't give any personal details, but some probably choose to share their story with you because they don't want to share it somewhere else.

[libert19]

You only mentioned he is having hard time due to his family, but the actual reason might give us the clarity of what is happening. However toxic family environment is real and being in that family hinders your academics or career and ruin your peace of mind. Look for the alternatives if necessary like move out of them and starting to live alone itself can make a huge difference in regaining control over your life and mental well-being.

I second what you say and I have experienced it myself. Staying away from any kind of toxicness, automatically brings sanity back into your life.

As I always tell people, if you want to be valued or respected by your family members, try and live alone, to be visiting your family members once a while when necessary because over familiarity and being available all the time brings insults. People won't regard you because you made yourself to be available to them.

Tell your friend to distance himself from his family members for the mean time, so that he can get back his respect.

I second this too.

[Stuart]

The situation of life is hard these days, and nothing is as hard as having those whom you care so much about turn around to hurt you. Though, it is hard to speak on, or give advise, as the whole situation is not clear/open on how we can give our advise on this situation. He should know this, that so long as he is still breathing, and there's life in him, he should put himself together and move on with life. Quiting is not a solution, giving up is not an option.

[Sim_card]

From what you said in the OP, I didn't read any mentioned problem but what you have done is the right thing. Giving him some words of courage and supporting him financially will do more help. Continue to encourage and cheer him up so that he should know that he has someone who cares for him apart from his family.