What are your reasons for still being single

[Nheer]

Some people were single and couldn't justify their reason for being single, maybe it was as a result of the economy hardship or thier inability to cope having a relations and be responsible for another person, there could be many stated reasons why some are still single, while on the other hand, we have some singles busy searching and yet to discover the right and perfect match for themselves.

I think the major factor that contributes to people (who are old enough to get involved in a relationship) are still single is mostly because of lack of trust, maybe due to their past experiences or maybe due to what they see others go through, they become scared to get involved in something serious, so they’d rather just play around rather than committing themselves to a relationship, and for some reasons, you can’t actually blame them because a lot of people are not really interested in being committed today, and the worst part of it all is that they refuse to clearly state their intentions and they end up leading someone else’s on, only to disappoint the person later on.
With all these, people tend to just guard their heart and feelings by also playing along with the trend, and no one knows who’s being serious and who’s just having fun.

Yeah I fully agree with you a lot have been going on in this relationship of a thing, many break hearts, treat their partners so badly and get them dumped. Which is one of the major things people are being afraid of. Some rather stay single than being heart broken or even taking some responsibilities on their head with a lot of stress and anxiety they are going through adding another thing will be much harder and heavier for them. As you state playing around is what most people do and that really helps a lot of people I will likely said most people now are playing around it very hard to find some sort of serious relationship these days. 😅

[_act_]

Some will never consider marriage as a matter of urgency once they are not yet balanced with their work and other things that needs settlement concerning their life, though to an extent, we may not ave to wait till some things get balanced before we can move on with life ambition like that of marital settlement, some are even more blessed in their marriage than when they were then single.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

Yeah I fully agree with you a lot have been going on in this relationship of a thing, many break hearts, treat their partners so badly and get them dumped. Which is one of the major things people are being afraid of. Some rather stay single than being heart broken or even taking some responsibilities on their head with a lot of stress and anxiety they are going through adding another thing will be much harder and heavier for them. As you state playing around is what most people do and that really helps a lot of people I will likely said most people now are playing around it very hard to find some sort of serious relationship these days. 😅

I’m glad you get my point, and with all these things happening around now, people are scared to let their guard down, to the extent that, even when people eventually meet the right ones who are really in for something serious, they still feel skeptical or hold back. Right now, trust is really hard to give and even harder to earn since we can’t really tell people’s true intentions or see the contents of their heart.

[milewilda]

Yeah I fully agree with you a lot have been going on in this relationship of a thing, many break hearts, treat their partners so badly and get them dumped. Which is one of the major things people are being afraid of. Some rather stay single than being heart broken or even taking some responsibilities on their head with a lot of stress and anxiety they are going through adding another thing will be much harder and heavier for them. As you state playing around is what most people do and that really helps a lot of people I will likely said most people now are playing around it very hard to find some sort of serious relationship these days. 😅

I’m glad you get my point, and with all these things happening around now, people are scared to let their guard down, to the extent that, even when people eventually meet the right ones who are really in for something serious, they still feel skeptical or hold back. Right now, trust is really hard to give and even harder to earn since we can’t really tell people’s true intentions or see the contents of their heart.

If you are an individual who cant just that easily trust up someone then the best thing to do is to find it out but actually even how many years you are together with your loved ones but on the moment that you do get married then this is where real behavior or traits will really be coming out on which this is something that you havent been able to know when you are still on those pre-marriage period. This is why we do really see up these divorces because of those traits or behavior on which their partners they have and cant be able to hold anymore and thats why they do made out such decision. To those who are still single up to now or been long time then they do have those tons of hesitation due to these kind of situations.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

If you are an individual who cant just that easily trust up someone then the best thing to do is to find it out but actually even how many years you are together with your loved ones but on the moment that you do get married then this is where real behavior or traits will really be coming out on which this is something that you havent been able to know when you are still on those pre-marriage period. This is why we do really see up these divorces because of those traits or behavior on which their partners they have and cant be able to hold anymore and thats why they do made out such decision. To those who are still single up to now or been long time then they do have those tons of hesitation due to these kind of situations.

One of the major reasons couples end up getting divorced few years after marriage is due to lack of understanding. Some people think that the only thing that keeps a relationship or a marriage is Love, but this is absolutely wrong, yes love is very important in any relationship, but it’s not just enough to hold a relationship, the both party may love each other so much but without trust and Understanding, (especially Understanding) the marriage or relationship will always encounter problems, one must be able to fully understand their partners else they’ll fight over little issues, and the more they have unnecessary fights, the more they grow apart and thus could potentially lead to a break up or a divorce, I’m not saying couples shouldn’t disagree, sometimes people disagree to learn and then later agree, but there are disagreements that are literally irrelevant and may lead to baseless arguments and this is always due to lack of understanding between the both parties.

[milewilda]

If you are an individual who cant just that easily trust up someone then the best thing to do is to find it out but actually even how many years you are together with your loved ones but on the moment that you do get married then this is where real behavior or traits will really be coming out on which this is something that you havent been able to know when you are still on those pre-marriage period. This is why we do really see up these divorces because of those traits or behavior on which their partners they have and cant be able to hold anymore and thats why they do made out such decision. To those who are still single up to now or been long time then they do have those tons of hesitation due to these kind of situations.

One of the major reasons couples end up getting divorced few years after marriage is due to lack of understanding. Some people think that the only thing that keeps a relationship or a marriage is Love, but this is absolutely wrong, yes love is very important in any relationship, but it’s not just enough to hold a relationship, the both party may love each other so much but without trust and Understanding, (especially Understanding) the marriage or relationship will always encounter problems, one must be able to fully understand their partners else they’ll fight over little issues, and the more they have unnecessary fights, the more they grow apart and thus could potentially lead to a break up or a divorce, I’m not saying couples shouldn’t disagree, sometimes people disagree to learn and then later agree, but there are disagreements that are literally irrelevant and may lead to baseless arguments and this is always due to lack of understanding between the both parties.

Yes, there are really tons of factors that might affect someones marriage even if it means that he/she know his/her partner overall but there would really be things that might changed up along the way on which this would really be causing up those changes on the things that you have used to. It will really be just that basing up if there would really be adjustments made up or there's nothing that they have done to save up their marriage on which of course this will really be just that basing up on how these partners will really be making up such move for them to make their relationship even more stronger and able to resolve out some possible problems that they are really that facing on.

[Cryptsafe]

Some people were single and couldn't justify their reason for being single, maybe it was as a result of the economy hardship or thier inability to cope having a relations and be responsible for another person, there could be many stated reasons why some are still single, while on the other hand, we have some singles busy searching and yet to discover the right and perfect match for themselves.

I think the major factor that contributes to people (who are old enough to get involved in a relationship) are still single is mostly because of lack of trust, maybe due to their past experiences or maybe due to what they see others go through, they become scared to get involved in something serious, so they’d rather just play around rather than committing themselves to a relationship, and for some reasons, you can’t actually blame them because a lot of people are not really interested in being committed today, and the worst part of it all is that they refuse to clearly state their intentions and they end up leading someone else’s on, only to disappoint the person later on.
With all these, people tend to just guard their heart and feelings by also playing along with the trend, and no one knows who’s being serious and who’s just having fun.

You are right. People are just afraid of relationship these days as a result of their past experience which have hurt them so bad because of the trust and all they gave and put in their relationship thinking they are in with a faithful partner not knowing that their partners are scammers in disguise. I know many people who suffered hearth break and have refused to go into any relationship and all they care now is just being a player and hanging by the corner so that they are not taken unawares. Joking with someone's feeling is too expensive to say and it is not ideal for anyone to do that because it all involves trust and commitment which no one can repair if broken.  This is the reasons why when trust is broken, one feels disappointed  and the narrative changes with them being extremely cautious and over Strict in their  requirements for a relationship.

[bisdak40]

If you are an individual who cant just that easily trust up someone then the best thing to do is to find it out but actually even how many years you are together with your loved ones but on the moment that you do get married then this is where real behavior or traits will really be coming out on which this is something that you havent been able to know when you are still on those pre-marriage period. This is why we do really see up these divorces because of those traits or behavior on which their partners they have and cant be able to hold anymore and thats why they do made out such decision. To those who are still single up to now or been long time then they do have those tons of hesitation due to these kind of situations.

One of the major reasons couples end up getting divorced few years after marriage is due to lack of understanding. Some people think that the only thing that keeps a relationship or a marriage is Love, but this is absolutely wrong, yes love is very important in any relationship, but it’s not just enough to hold a relationship, the both party may love each other so much but without trust and Understanding, (especially Understanding) the marriage or relationship will always encounter problems, one must be able to fully understand their partners else they’ll fight over little issues, and the more they have unnecessary fights, the more they grow apart and thus could potentially lead to a break up or a divorce, I’m not saying couples shouldn’t disagree, sometimes people disagree to learn and then later agree, but there are disagreements that are literally irrelevant and may lead to baseless arguments and this is always due to lack of understanding between the both parties.

Yes i agree, marriage shows sides of your partner you might not notice before. Love isn’t enough to make it work you need trust and understanding. Without that, small fights can grow into big problems. Disagreeing is normal, but constant pointless arguments can break a relationship. Understanding each other is the key.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

You are right. People are just afraid of relationship these days as a result of their past experience which have hurt them so bad because of the trust and all they gave and put in their relationship thinking they are in with a faithful partner not knowing that their partners are scammers in disguise. I know many people who suffered hearth break and have refused to go into any relationship and all they care now is just being a player and hanging by the corner so that they are not taken unawares. Joking with someone's feeling is too expensive to say and it is not ideal for anyone to do that because it all involves trust and commitment which no one can repair if broken.  This is the reasons why when trust is broken, one feels disappointed  and the narrative changes with them being extremely cautious and over Strict in their  requirements for a relationship.

Past relationship traumas and disappointments can indeed influence a person into thinking that’s how life is, some people have gotten hurt multiple times because they chose to trust someone and maybe love them unconditionally and the person failed to adequately reciprocate those feelings but rather hurt and disappointed them on multiple occasions, and even when they decide to give them the benefit of doubt, they still end up crushing their trust. These experiences can potentially affect a person’s judgment to thinking that’s just the drill, and some end up adopting the same attitude in order to protect themselves from future threats and disappointments, and sometimes you can’t really blame them for their decisions because they were never like that.

[Cryptsafe]

You are right. People are just afraid of relationship these days as a result of their past experience which have hurt them so bad because of the trust and all they gave and put in their relationship thinking they are in with a faithful partner not knowing that their partners are scammers in disguise. I know many people who suffered hearth break and have refused to go into any relationship and all they care now is just being a player and hanging by the corner so that they are not taken unawares. Joking with someone's feeling is too expensive to say and it is not ideal for anyone to do that because it all involves trust and commitment which no one can repair if broken.  This is the reasons why when trust is broken, one feels disappointed  and the narrative changes with them being extremely cautious and over Strict in their  requirements for a relationship.

Past relationship traumas and disappointments can indeed influence a person into thinking that’s how life is, some people have gotten hurt multiple times because they chose to trust someone and maybe love them unconditionally and the person failed to adequately reciprocate those feelings but rather hurt and disappointed them on multiple occasions, and even when they decide to give them the benefit of doubt, they still end up crushing their trust. These experiences can potentially affect a person’s judgment to thinking that’s just the drill, and some end up adopting the same attitude in order to protect themselves from future threats and disappointments, and sometimes you can’t really blame them for their decisions because they were never like that.

You are right here, peoples experience makes them take or make drastic decisions that makes it difficult to sometimes give in so easily. Situations as this are  very difficult to do away with because it is a thing of experience and one would want to set the boundaries and protect themselves and their interests to not get hurt anymore. This is the reasons why you see many singles out there being so tough to talk into. Some just make up their mind to just be a player and not care whatever comes out of it anymore because of what they have been through.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

You are right here, peoples experience makes them take or make drastic decisions that makes it difficult to sometimes give in so easily. Situations as this are  very difficult to do away with because it is a thing of experience and one would want to set the boundaries and protect themselves and their interests to not get hurt anymore. This is the reasons why you see many singles out there being so tough to talk into. Some just make up their mind to just be a player and not care whatever comes out of it anymore because of what they have been through.

That’s right!
People often feel like the major problem is finding the right one, but that’s actually the least of the problems, the actual problem is knowing it’s the right one with genuine intentions when you see them, because most people are just wearing disguises just to achieve their selfish interests and without minding the emotions and feelings of the next person. Sometimes you may come across the one with the right and genuine intentions but since you can’t really tell what’s in their mind. And when you’re playing cautiously, the person feels you’re holding back because you’re not in for something serious or just messing with their feelings and they just give up, not everyone actually have the patience of loving and coping with a broken partner.

[Cryptsafe]

You are right here, peoples experience makes them take or make drastic decisions that makes it difficult to sometimes give in so easily. Situations as this are  very difficult to do away with because it is a thing of experience and one would want to set the boundaries and protect themselves and their interests to not get hurt anymore. This is the reasons why you see many singles out there being so tough to talk into. Some just make up their mind to just be a player and not care whatever comes out of it anymore because of what they have been through.

That’s right!
People often feel like the major problem is finding the right one, but that’s actually the least of the problems, the actual problem is knowing it’s the right one with genuine intentions when you see them, because most people are just wearing disguises just to achieve their selfish interests and without minding the emotions and feelings of the next person. Sometimes you may come across the one with the right and genuine intentions but since you can’t really tell what’s in their mind. And when you’re playing cautiously, the person feels you’re holding back because you’re not in for something serious or just messing with their feelings and they just give up, not everyone actually have the patience of loving and coping with a broken partner.

This is why communication is very good in a relationship, to some extent one can be able to pick some facts while interacting with whomever is showing interest in them. There are some certain topic of discussion in relationship  that an unserious person would avoid and when that happens, one should be reasonable enough to know that their partner is not really interested in settling down with them but rather just to  waste their time and as such should know what to do immediately otherwise they should have themselves to blamed for their insensitivity. Communication alone can expose lots of things if it is someone who really knows the power of communication in relationship.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

This is why communication is very good in a relationship, to some extent one can be able to pick some facts while interacting with whomever is showing interest in them. There are some certain topic of discussion in relationship  that an unserious person would avoid and when that happens, one should be reasonable enough to know that their partner is not really interested in settling down with them but rather just to  waste their time and as such should know what to do immediately otherwise they should have themselves to blamed for their insensitivity. Communication alone can expose lots of things if it is someone who really knows the power of communication in relationship.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you vividly see the turn offs and red flags from the other person, but you just love them so much that you’re not able to let them go, hoping that one day you’ll be able to change them and make them see you the same way you see them? This is often the case in some relationships, just as you’ve said, you may try to initiate those conversations but whenever you do, they always try as much as they can to avoid them, as well as showing you other vivid clues and red flags but you just completely ignore them because you either love them too much to let them go and willing to fight for them, or you’ve invested way too much already in that relationship and going back doesn’t seem to be an option.

[Cryptsafe]

This is why communication is very good in a relationship, to some extent one can be able to pick some facts while interacting with whomever is showing interest in them. There are some certain topic of discussion in relationship  that an unserious person would avoid and when that happens, one should be reasonable enough to know that their partner is not really interested in settling down with them but rather just to  waste their time and as such should know what to do immediately otherwise they should have themselves to blamed for their insensitivity. Communication alone can expose lots of things if it is someone who really knows the power of communication in relationship.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you vividly see the turn offs and red flags from the other person, but you just love them so much that you’re not able to let them go, hoping that one day you’ll be able to change them and make them see you the same way you see them? This is often the case in some relationships, just as you’ve said, you may try to initiate those conversations but whenever you do, they always try as much as they can to avoid them, as well as showing you other vivid clues and red flags but you just completely ignore them because you either love them too much to let them go and willing to fight for them, or you’ve invested way too much already in that relationship and going back doesn’t seem to be an option.

If I may ask you, do you prefer your emotions to lead you in your love/relationship life or you prefer being logical when it comes to situations as this?

I have met  people who are logical in relationship and they are realistic with situations but it just seems their pattern of relationship is too cruel in the sense that they are driven by the reality at hand than being controlled by emotions. People like this are the type that set boundaries and are hard to get tangled with possibly as a result of their past experience which have turned them into what they are. As for those who are emotion driven, they put their emotions before them and get led by it causing them what they are going through and when they turn a new leaf, they become too over strict and difficult to approach.

[_act_]

This is why communication is very good in a relationship, to some extent one can be able to pick some facts while interacting with whomever is showing interest in them. There are some certain topic of discussion in relationship  that an unserious person would avoid and when that happens, one should be reasonable enough to know that their partner is not really interested in settling down with them but rather just to  waste their time and as such should know what to do immediately otherwise they should have themselves to blamed for their insensitivity. Communication alone can expose lots of things if it is someone who really knows the power of communication in relationship.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you vividly see the turn offs and red flags from the other person, but you just love them so much that you’re not able to let them go, hoping that one day you’ll be able to change them and make them see you the same way you see them? This is often the case in some relationships, just as you’ve said, you may try to initiate those conversations but whenever you do, they always try as much as they can to avoid them, as well as showing you other vivid clues and red flags but you just completely ignore them because you either love them too much to let them go and willing to fight for them, or you’ve invested way too much already in that relationship and going back doesn’t seem to be an option.

If I may ask you, do you prefer your emotions to lead you in your love/relationship life or you prefer being logical when it comes to situations as this?

I have met  people who are logical in relationship and they are realistic with situations but it just seems their pattern of relationship is too cruel in the sense that they are driven by the reality at hand than being controlled by emotions. People like this are the type that set boundaries and are hard to get tangled with possibly as a result of their past experience which have turned them into what they are. As for those who are emotion driven, they put their emotions before them and get led by it causing them what they are going through and when they turn a new leaf, they become too over strict and difficult to approach.

I will go for the logical aspect, but that alone does not justify it all, when we are into a relationship or going to one, we must be very sensitive as well as know that we can easily get attracted to the very kind of person like us, which means, if you think you're a good man, then you will easily get attracted to a good woman and so applies to a deceitful person, we also need to open our eye well to see whats ahead of us, know what we want and also be sincere about ourself that we are truly ready for a relationship or marriage, because its not a child's play and we cannot deceive our partner into a relation just to waste their life while we think we are catching fun.